Introverts unite! Many of these things have already been said, but they bear repeating. Here are things I'd like people to realize about introversion and shyness (yes, I know the two aren't the same thing, but in my case they tend to overlap). In case you're wondering, a few are directed at people I know.
I prefer being in small groups. Three or four people is enough for me. Six or seven is the maximum I can handle at one time.
Being quiet and not smiling doesn't mean I'm upset. It could mean I'm just thinking. Do not assume I should automatically smile whenever I'm out in public.
Small talk doesn't come naturally. If you try to engage me in conversation when I have nothing to say, it's going to be awkward.
Stop telling me "You can be social." Repeating this over and over is not encouraging me to be more social.
If I'd rather spend the evening alone, this doesn't necessarily mean something's wrong. Often, it just means staying home watching a movie or reading blogs sounds more fun to me than going out.
Large crowds (and noise) stress me out. The difference between an extrovert and an introvert is the way they recharge when they feel drained. An extrovert will seek out other people, while an introvert finds interacting with too many people for too long stressful. Ergo, I would prefer solitude to feel better as opposed to socializing.
Introversion is not a problem to be solved. It is a state of being.
What else needs to be said about introversion?
© 2014 by M.R.R.